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(Disclaimer: The dilemmas have been published exactly how they have been submitted, for privacy purposes we have altered the names. However the age has remained accurate, for a relatability factor.)
"Hey Wap Aunties,
I’m in a bit of a pickle….Basically I’ve had this best friend from uni who at first I never would have thought we would have grown so close.
Let me start by saying, I’m very much pro black, like.. my entire brand is #blacklove #blacklivesmatter #allblackeverything hence my surprise of us getting along so well. And not having to conceal my racial views or stand points on matters.
We are no longer best friends like we used to be due to life, life-ing but we’re still good friends who don’t speak often.
Okayyy sooo, my friend is White & if I ever did do White guys, I think he would be my type and not because his family is pretty solid in terms of wealth & connections. But because he understands his position and white privilege plus his parents, LOVEEE me! And have been trying to get us together for years.
We recently met up for dinner, after not seeing each other in years due to him living aboard for work.
I am not sure what the American water or air did to him, but this man is finoeeee now!
I mean David Beckham, Chris Hemsworth & his brother fine.
He has always been the spicy White guy with a healthy mix of ethnic friends but now he’s full blown seasoned.
Beard & hair shaped up, more bass in his voice, he even walks a little differently, worked out, I swear he’s gotten taller or maybe I didn’t notice before but he’s averaging 6’3ft now.
Minus him being White, this man is now my type to the T!
He spoke of us throwing away the friend title & possibly exploring something more serious. Omg he even threw the “Wife” word in there too!
Okayyyy, so I’m currently 31 & in a relationship with my Nigerian King. We have been together for 3 & a half years going on 4 soon.
He has met my Spicy White friend once, on my 29th birthday they actually got along.
We have spoken about marriage numerous times, but he said he is not ready yet. And needs more time to get his affairs & mind together.
But since meeting up with my friend for dinner, I have been dreaming about him blowing my back out almost every night.
I’m starting to question if I’m really pro black & if I should continue this current relationship I’m in.
I really don’t know what to do, WAP Aunties I need your help!"
Naomi- 31
Answered by Your Aunties Could Never : The Aunties discuss the importance of being mindful of one's values and not using "Pro blackness" as an excuse.
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Hi Agony Aunt,
I’m writing from Dallas, please change my name when posted.
When I met my partner at 27, at a tech convention.
Who is my now husband, I wanted 4 children, as time has gone on the number has gotten less.
When I was 33, the number dropped to 2 children maximum.
Now 34, turning 35 in September. I’m thinking I no longer want children, periodT!
My husband still wants 4 as he comes from a very big family. Every year he speaks of trying for a baby, but I put it off due to simply not wanting to go through childbirth anymore.
The problem is we bought this big 5 bedroom house in Dallas with a huge yard out back, with hopes at the time of filling it with children.
I really don’t want him to leave me or break his heart but I don’t know how to tell him, I don’t want children anymore.
Alice - 34
Answered by Your Aunties Could Never : The Aunties suggest that it's important for her to be honest with her husband, and that she cannot keep this a secret. They emphasise that being on completely separate pages when it comes to having children is not sustainable and could lead to resentment. They advise the listener to have a conversation with her husband and to allow him the space to go and find someone who wants children if that is important to him, while also finding someone who shares her vision if she does not want any children.
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